Effect Others Have in Our Lives

                     THE SPONGES

I like to think of humans as superheroes who have the ability to absorb emotions of the people near them and make them their own. They could sit next to a man burning with rage and soak up all the anger and frustration and needless to say that they won’t be such a desirable company for the next few hours.

Isn’t it a pity how such small things in our day to day life have the ability to influence our mood. A small talk with a pessimist can take out all the fun and excitement from all the tasks you have to do, all the events you have to witness in your daily life. Its like we all are sponges. We sponge off vibes off other people. Whether they be positive or negative. You may hear a lot of people telling you on daily basis about how you should not let other people influence your mood. But I find it the harsh reality that you can control that only upto a certain extent.

 Someone with an arrogant attitude towards life or someone who has declared himself a loser is bound to break your spirits with time. They say that you become what you spent your time with , I say words, more truthful, have never been spoken. A pessimist is bound to take away your optimism, a negative person will always leech out your positivity. You are human, you cannot resist being affected by the type of people you have daily contact with.

The only possible answer is that distance yourself from such people. That is why it is said to surround yourself with desirable people. It is said that if you are the smartest person in the room,  you are in the wrong room. Keep the company of those who you desire to become, and soon you’ll be competing in a league others can’t even think of entering.

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The Indian Society

         The Indian Society

Human beings are known to be social animals. They need other people around them for support, for help, for “development”. The aggregate of people living together in a more or less ordered community or “the society” was formed to fulfill these requirements. Our relatives, neighbours, friends, acquaintances form it.

Nowadays the term “supportive society” maybe taken ironically by many people, taking the youth into special consideration, and I do not seem to have reasons, enough to contradict that.

The institution of society seems to have lost its motive of being supportive, for which it was formed in the first place. Call it increasing competetion, or decreasing goodwill of people, but people seem more eager to criticize than they are to apprecaite.

They tend to judge us at every moment, every action, every decision, and what's worst is that they judge us according to their centuries old mentality.

Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak commented about Indians lacking in ceative quotient, and he blamed the Indian education system for inhibiting the creativity. In my opinion, the society adds up to this conservative atitude. Living in one of the most populous countries, with a competetion with one of the most hardworking and commited intellectual labourers, and keeping in mind about what the judgemental society thinks about us, is not all easy.

Steve Wozniak was not wrong when he said that in the process of looking for good jobs, the hunger for creativity has taken a backseat. Ever heard an Indian aunty advicing you to go after your passion, and pursue the career you like?

Youngsters are starting to develop a mindset of either not caring at all about wat people think or caring a little too much about what others think that they change their goals in life just to gain approval of people.

Also in the era of increasing competetion and close minded people, the youth is sure to be disturbed, and more or less frightened about being compared with all the children of his age group.

Moreover, this leads to bragging about the achievements and the performance of their respective wards which leads to cut throat egoistic competetion between the grown ups which ultimately increases the pressure on he children.

Lately, in my opinion, society has had more of a presure exerting phenomena on an individual which often leads to show off and the exertion of the individual beyong his limits-physically, financally, socially.

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What We Go Through

                What We Go Through

“What is wrong with this generation ?” is something maybe everybody wonders.

Basically we're the officially most fucked up generation they ever thought of. Right?

Well, we seem to have our reasons. We have to deal with a lot more stuff than what the decades, our parents or grandparens lived in, had in store for them. We have to deal with a lot of stuff that maybe...... is not meant for our age.

They say thatour parents experienced mood swings, just like we do. Yes, but they did have someone to vent out what they felt... they lived in an era where trust and faith did exist.

Our problems are far reaching than disapproving parents and society. We have peer issues. It's important to be cool..... and all the vices seem to come along with all the cool stuff.

Those who wre able to adapt to this stuff, grow into less caring,less accountable,less trustworthy,more arrogant , egoist....nerds.

Those who couldn't, tend to be hit by a “I'm not good enough” syndrome. They experience a feeling of alienation from the fun stuff in their life. The so called “cool” children dominate the front gronuds, and all others are made to thonk they don't deserve to be so reknown, to feel so great about themselves. This is what in some cases leads to an inferiority complex.Leading to feeling of loneliness and despair.

The so called “cool” children ultimately realise that all those around them are not trustworthy enogh. They have all grown into what cannot be described as a good human being. They too however, find themselvas alone when they need someone to talk to, to vent to, to share with, no matter how many people they call “friends”.

So be it the scincere one's, the popular one's, the book worms, the stars of field, after a while all drop to the same level of helplessness and despair. All have to resort to keeping inside, what is inside them.

This evidently leads to the behaviour that causes everybody to think “what's wrong?”

This generation has to live without real “friends”. All they have to care about is an attractive image, by showoff, self pepping, etc..etc.. They need to fake who they are. Cause they know no one is there to understand something, they'll just be making a laughing stock of themselves.

Do you get what's wrong? Did you deal with this stuff? Or do you know what we are dealing with? Then you Better not question about “what's wrong”

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Stress Busting by Vaibhav Joon

            STRESS BUSTING

Stress is something we all encounter in our day to day lives. It is a problem faced by everyone everywhere. But the fact is, LIFE IS TENSION, there could be no life without tension. Tension in life is like a string in guitar. Too much tension and too less tension interferes with the process of life in the same way  the string of guitar interferes with the melody, if it’s either too loose or too tight.

All your feelings, positive or negative create psychological changes. Your heart rate, your blood, muscular activity, and the hairs on your head and you don’t even know what else changes when you experience stress. Stress plays an eminent role in determining the well working of your immune system, keeping a check on your cholesterol level, blood pressure, hormonal balance and well-being of human heart. Therefore, managing stress levels is crucial for optimal health.

Management of stress is an art, and in order to become successful one has to become the Picasso of it.

After going to work, completing your errands, doing household chores, sending children to sleep one is tired enough and doesn’t think of stress management. People generally occupy themselves with social media or zone out to mindless entertainment, often going to bed frizzled and anxious ………..  waking up with the same mood. This is a vicious circle and the only way to escape is to bring stress management in your daily routine.

In order to drain out stress from your lives you first need to analyze the reasons or the factors that have been stressing you out lately. The causes of stress are wide ranging. From parental pressure to the pressure exerted by the society, the pressure to bring a good result to the pressure to showoff among your friends. The pressure may be financial, emotional, social or anything else.

It is imp to root it out. The first thing you can do to root out stress is looking at life with a positive outlook.  Well said by Hans selye –   “it is not the stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” Remember most of the stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude and all the extra stress is gone.

Another thing that should be done is finish what you have started. Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started. We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it. So focus on your present and try not to leave anything undone.

Having a “me time” in the day for yourself is quite imp. As Eckhart Tolle said “Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’ We often don’t spend enough time doing things we really enjoy. Spending time doing things of our interest boosts our moral and supplements our body with a new energy.

Take support from your social circle. Talking with a good friend is an excellent way for fighting stress. Don’t hesitate to share your problems with your parents or your mentors. They can always be relied upon for expert advice.

Work smarter not harder. Keep a diary handy with you. At the start of the day prioritize your tasks. Keep the most imp ones at the top and reserve the less imp ones for later. Don’t think that your tray of works will be empty at the end of the day. It will always be full.

Learn to say no. There are things that are imposed on you whether you like them or not. Get the fact straight that you can’t satisfy everyone.

 Adjusting your expectations can do wonders in stress management. Learn to compromise. Learn to be happy in the environment you are living in. 

Always keep in mind not to use unhealthy habits. Don't rely on alcohol, smoking and caffeine as your ways of coping. Over the long term, these crutches won’t solve your problems. They’ll just create new ones. "It’s like putting your head in the sand. It might provide temporary relief, but it won’t make the problems disappear. You need to tackle the cause of your stress.